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Everyone wants respect from their spouse. However, it's not always given. They say respect is earned. But in relationships, we don't always know how. I mean, you're married which means you should naturally respect each other, right? WRONG! Sometimes, mistakes and flaws get in the way. When you disappoint or hurt your partner time and time again, you are likely going to lose respect. And it takes CONSISTENT ACTION to earn back what you've lost. So what can you do? Here are a few simple tips that may help...
Is Individuality in Marriage Important?
How healthy is it to be "independent" in your marriage? Can you maintain a sense of identity while "becoming one" with your spouse? Although many may disagree, I would say YES! Keep reading to find out why...
Is Your Relationship Headed Toward Breakup?
Over time, couples may find themselves growing apart. They become unhappy, but they're not quite sure when it began. The ebb and flow is sometimes hard to navigate. That's why it's important to always pay attention to your partner- changes in their behavior or response toward you like shutting down, spending more time away, etc. It's good to notice these signs early so that you can readjust. Clean the slate and start over- focus on building something new or you can enhance what you already have. Relationships can be challenging, but it doesn't mean you can't work through it together...
Commitment- Through Think & Thin
Do you ever question your commitment to your spouse? Have you ever thought- divorce is not an option, but I am unhappy right now? How you ever considered leaving because your spouse broke their commitment to you? Let's talk about it!
BEWARE! Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
We all know that relationships can be difficult. It becomes even more challenging when you are involved in one that is unhealthy. Here are 10 RED FLAGS that you may need to reevaluate your relationship or seek counseling to fully address problematic issues.
Control Issues In Your Relationship
If you feel that your opinion doesn't matter or you always have to walk on eggshells to keep your partner happy, this could be signs of control issues in your relationship. When you feel you have lost your independence, lack a sense of self-worth, or feel criticized in everything you do, this could indicate there are deeper problems at hand...
Can You Hear Me Now?
We always hear people talk about communication- How important it is and why we have to learn how to do it effectively to keep our relationship strong. I know it seems redundant at times, but they are right! You have to openly talk about what you want in your relationship. Your needs should be heard, your opinion matters, and you should feel supported. Let's talk about a few ways that you can express your needs AND get what you want out of your relationship...
Ouch! That Hurt- Can You Forgive and Let It Go?
Giving up seems so much easier. You don't have to deal with the issues. You don't have to face the pain. You don't have to try and fix it. You just drop the ball, say "I'm done," and leave the team standing on the court. So, what do you do when the disappointment is too strong or the pain of what they did is too deep? When is it OK to forgive and let go?
A Little Space Please?
Yeah- I said it- GIVE THEM SOME SPACE! Sometimes a little space between you can be a really good thing. It gives you time to miss each other. It gives you a moment where you have time to think, breathe or relax. It also gives you the opportunity to do things you enjoy (walking, spending time with friends, enjoying hobbies, etc.) You don't have to be "under each other" to love each other... a little space can go a long way!
Why You Need An Emotionally Fit Marriage
You probably haven't thought about having an "emotionally fit marriage." For one, it sounds weird, and it really doesn't make any sense. Fitness is physical, right? Well, when I say "emotionally fit"- I mean that you are happy, your marriage is healthy, and you feel strong together. You have confidence- you feel satisfied- you are optimistic about your future. Emotional fitness deals with what you give, how you give, and what you receive in return. Giving can bring tremendous joy- but it means more when it is received. Receiving can bring happiness, but it means more when it's what you need. If your marriage isn't emotionally fit, you will feel rejected by your partner or totally depleted from giving too much. "Emotional fitness" means you are in sync; You are moving forward toward building a strong marriage; And you are constantly striving to have a marriage that is in shape and healthy. Let's look at 6 ways your marriage can be emotionally fit...
Hang On Tight and Don't Let Go
Relationships are often tested over time. You go through tough situations- financial struggles, raising children, death of family members, stress on the job, even infidelity- and sometimes you don't know if you can hold the marriage together. You take marriage with the good and the bad, the ups and the downs. But when the bad outweighs the good, and the downs keep coming- you start to wonder if it's worth the struggle. ..
Holding Things Together
Supporting your partner through tough transitions isn't easy. From losing a job, death of a loved one, aging or even growing apart over time, these transitions can be tough and leave us feeling emotionally overwhelmed. Sometimes, we just don't know what to do to help them. Here are a few tips...
Feeling Empowered In Your Relationship
It's important to feel confident and secure with your partner. Empowerment brings personal authority to take control over the direction of your marriage. Accomplishing goals and staying focused sets the stage for a healthy relationship. Here are 7 tips to help you feel empowered in your relationship...
How To RESET Your Relationship
What do you do when you've lost motivation or can't seem to move forward in your marriage? Sometimes you have to push the "RESET BUTTON" on your relationship when things get off track or you seem to lose focus. Just like when your computer freezes or you're playing a video game and you get stuck- RESET will take you back to the beginning so you can start over.
When The Honeymoon Is OVER!
What causes the honeymoon to end? Maybe it happens when you first recognize that this carefree, blissful period is over and the reality of responsibility and accountability sets in. For many couples, the honeymoon can last a few months to several years. It is a very special time to experience your partner in a closer more intimate way. But sometimes, things change. You may see negative characteristics in your partner that you never noticed before- and this can be frustrating. So how should you handle things when you are annoyed, irritated or aggravated with your partner? Here are 6 topics of discussion to keep your honeymoon going!
Is This Really Worth Arguing About?
What do you do when a simple conversation turns into a major argument? How do you handle the challenge of navigating your way through tough issues and heated topics? It's inevitable- you're going to disagree about something. But it doesn't always have to end with hurt feelings or high blood pressure! Here are a few tips that might help…
When Saying I Love You Isn't Enough
Love is powerful. It awakens us to our own emotional capacity, signifies deep admiration, and reveals a powerful connection. "I love you" is the epitome of building a strong relationship and subtly insinuates one's desire to be loved in return. But what happens when the enchantment of "I love you" fades. What happens when the brilliance of "I love you" loses its luster? What do you when your spouse says "I love you" is not enough?
A Little Praise Can Make a Big Difference
You know, so many couples place limitations on their partner. They think "well, she/he's been this way for so long- that's just the way she/he is- she/he'll never change." I disagree. It's possible to make a major difference in your partner's behavior and attitude with just a little practice and positive reinforcement:)
5 Essentials for Relationship Success
There are several factors involved in creating the marriage you want. That's the key- CREATING- it doesn't just happen! So many couples think that "getting married" is the key to a bright future. Nope- it's just the starting point. Step 1- say "I do," Step 2- COMMIT to all that comes with it, Step 3- STICK WITH IT! Lets look at some essentials to creating that successful marriage you want...
The Comparison Factor
When you compare your relationship to others, you're probably setting yourself up for failure. Sometimes we see a happy couple holding hands, smiling and we think "I wish we could be like them." But there are several reasons why comparing your relationship to someone else's can be harmful.
Repairing a Broken Relationship
Trust is essential in a relationship- it's a major part of the foundation on which a solid relationship is built. When trust is broken or damaged, the relationship can easily fall apart. So we know that factors including dishonesty, unfaithfulness, disloyalty, and betrayal can all lead to broken trust. So here are a few questions to ask yourself...
Do I Tell Too Much? Reasons to Avoid Sharing Relationship Problems
For those of us who tell too much- You have probably been guilty of seeking advice when there were problems in your relationship. Not that getting advice is wrong, it's just that everyone's advice isn't good advice. You want a listening ear- like someone who will empathize with you - but it's more like someone who will agree with you and give you the feedback you want to hear. You really don't want to talk to someone who is going to disagree- you already have enough conflict with your partner- you don't need any more! But, it's really important that you don't loop family, friends or even coworkers into problems in your relationship.
Why Saying 'I Need You To...' Can Hurt Your Relationship
I just read this article on Psychology Today- "Why You Should Never Say 'I Need Your To...'" According to Melissa Orlove, this can be a very hurtful phrase because it usually Implies that what your partner is doing isn't enough. Here are my thoughts...
10 Keys to a Happy, Healthy Marriage
Marriage is soooo much more than '"I do" and a "piece of paper." It's GIVING. It's PASSIONATE. It's DETERMINATION. It's LOYALTY. It's COOPERATION. It's REAL. Being married is one of the easiest yet hardest things to do. You can sit back and watch it (EASY) or you can commit and work at it (HARD). You can allow it to just happen (EASY) or you can create the marriage you desire (HARD). Truth is: You can choose the easy route- but it will be hard to maintain and you may find yourself looking at a divorce decree down the road OR you can do the work now and reap the rewards in the end. It's ALL up to you! So if your willing to do the work- consider the following keys to a happy, healthy relationship.
Learning to Let Go
Sometimes we hold on to things that keep our relationship from growing. By learning to let go, we gain the freedom to expand our relationship to new levels. Here are a few considerations:
Can We Save Our Marriage?
According to an article by the American Psychological Association (April 2013, Vol 44, No. 4), although most young couples are optimistic in believing the marriage will last forever, they may only be kidding themselves. According to national data from the National Center of Health Statistics (NCHS), the likelihood that a couple will celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary is 52% for women and 56% for men. So we may ask, what makes marriage last? Here are a few factors that contribute to 'happily ever after.'
Secrets of A Very Happy Wife
According to the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, there are 5 predictors of marital happiness for married women with children. Here are the secrets of "very happy" wives...