Flip My Marriage

Everyone wants respect from their spouse. However, it's not always given. They say respect is earned. But in relationships, we don't always know how. I mean, you're married which means you should naturally respect each other, right? WRONG! Sometimes, mistakes and flaws get in the way. When you disappoint or hurt your partner time and time again, you are likely going to lose respect. And it takes CONSISTENT ACTION to earn back what you've lost. So what can you do? Here are a few simple tips that may help...
How healthy is it to be "independent" in your marriage?  Can you maintain a sense of identity while "becoming one" with your spouse? Although many may disagree, I would say YES! Keep reading to find out why...
Over time, couples may find themselves growing apart. They become unhappy, but they're not quite sure when it began. The ebb and flow is sometimes hard to navigate. That's why it's important to always pay attention to your partner- changes in their behavior or response toward you like shutting down, spending more time away, etc. It's good to notice these signs early so that you can readjust. Clean the slate and start over- focus on building something new or you can enhance what you already have. Relationships can be challenging, but it doesn't mean you can't work through it together...
Do you ever question your commitment to your spouse?  Have you ever thought- divorce is not an option, but I am unhappy right now?  How you ever considered leaving because your spouse broke their commitment to you?  Let's talk about it!
We all know that relationships can be difficult.  It becomes even more challenging when you are involved in one that is unhealthy.  Here are 10 RED FLAGS that you may need to reevaluate your relationship or seek counseling to fully address problematic issues.
If you feel that your opinion doesn't matter or you always have to walk on eggshells to keep your partner happy, this could be signs of control issues in your relationship.  When you feel you have lost your independence, lack a sense of self-worth, or feel criticized in everything you do, this could indicate there are deeper problems at hand...
We always hear people talk about communication- How important it is and why we have to learn how to do it effectively to keep our relationship strong. I know it seems redundant at times, but they are right! You have to openly talk about what you want in your relationship. Your needs should be heard, your opinion matters, and you should feel supported. Let's talk about a few ways that you can express your needs AND get what you want out of your relationship...
Giving up seems so much easier. You don't have to deal with the issues. You don't have to face the pain. You don't have to try and fix it. You just drop the ball, say "I'm done," and leave the team standing on the court. So, what do you do when the disappointment is too strong or the pain of what they did is too deep? When is it OK to forgive and let go?
Yeah- I said it- GIVE THEM SOME SPACE! Sometimes a little space between you can be a really good thing. It gives you time to miss each other. It gives you a moment where you have time to think, breathe or relax. It also gives you the opportunity to do things you enjoy (walking, spending time with friends, enjoying hobbies, etc.) You don't have to be "under each other" to love each other... a little space can go a long way!
You probably haven't thought about having an "emotionally fit marriage."  For one, it sounds weird, and it really doesn't make any sense.  Fitness is physical, right?  Well, when I say "emotionally fit"- I mean that you are happy, your marriage is healthy, and you feel strong together.  You have confidence- you feel satisfied-  you are optimistic about your future.  Emotional fitness deals with what you give, how you give, and what you receive in return.  Giving can bring tremendous joy- but it means more when it is received.  Receiving can bring happiness, but it means more when it's what you need.  If your marriage isn't emotionally fit, you will feel rejected by your partner or totally depleted from giving too much.  "Emotional fitness" means you are in sync; You are moving forward toward building a strong marriage; And you are constantly striving to have a marriage that is in shape and healthy.   Let's look at 6 ways your marriage can be emotionally fit...